Delray Orthodox Synagogue
DELRAY ORTHODOX SYNAGOGUE
"A Jewel of a Shul"
7319 W. ATLANTIC AVENUE
DELRAY BEACH, FLORIDA 33446
RABBI MENACHEM JAROSLAWICZ
HARRY LAZARUS, PRESIDENT
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Laws of the Nine Days andthe Fast of Tisha B'AV
As we approach the start of the “Nine days” it is appropriate to review the pertinent Halachos for this time.
The Nine Days begin on Rosh Chodesh Av – Sunday evening, July 27, 2014. The ninth day of Av commences this year on Monday evening, August 4th. It is the most mournful day of the Jewish calendar. It commemorates among other tragic events; the day which Hashem decreed upon the generation of the desert to remain there 40 years; the destruction of both Temples in Yerushalayim, the annihilation of Betar and the expulsion from Spain in 1492.
In addition to the prohibitions during the Three Weeks of haircutting and shaving (for men, women and children; women are allowed to shave their legs), listening to music, weddings, reciting Shehechiyanu (e.g. over new clothes, fruit, etc.) except on Shabbos, the Nine Days have other restrictions. They include prohibitions for showering, bathing for pleasure (as opposed to bathing for health reasons in the Florida heat), laundering and dressing in freshly laundered or new clothes (except for Shabbos), eating meat or drinking wine, swimming and boating.
Erev Fast of Tisha B’Av – Monday, August 4, 201
Fast of Tisha B’Av – Tuesday, August 5, 2014
The “Five Abstentions”:
- Eating and drinking are prohibited. (Anyone with a health problem should contact the Rabbi.) If one absolutely needs (a) pill(s) but could otherwise fast, it should be downed with a tablespoon of water.
- Washing is prohibited. All necessary washing of hands (morning, sanitary, etc.) is limited to the fingers only, up until the knuckles. If hands are soiled they may be cleaned.
- Cosmetics (lipstick, body lotions, etc.) are prohibited. Applying ointments for medicinal purposes only is permitted as prescribed.
- Leather shoes are prohibited.
- Marital relations are prohibited. A wife should be treated as Niddah for the entire fast.
- Study of Torah – Because Torah gladdens the heart we do not study Torah on the Fast of Tisha B’Av except for appropriate subjects. They include; The Book of Job (Iyov) / Migillas Aichah and its Midrash / the account of the destruction in Gittin (56 – 58) and in Sanhedrin (104) / Chapter Three of Mesechta Moed Katan (laws of Avilus).
- Greetings (“good morning”) are not given. If someone does so, he may be answered softly.
- Smoking is prohibited.
- Comforts are minimized – e.g. strolling for pleasure and general levity.
- Work which is time-consuming (skilled or not) is forbidden at night and until mid-day of Tisha B’Av. Unless unavoidable, it is best not to work at all on this day. Chazal tell us that any work done on Tisha B'av that could have been avoided will not produce a Simon B'racha, (positive result).
- Evening: The paroches is removed from the ark – lights are dimmed – Maariv and Kinos are recited/chanted in mournful tones with the congregation seated on or near the floor – at Maariv, Kaddish without Tiskabel.
- Shacharis: No tefillin or tallis are worn – the recital of the Korbonos is postponed for pre-Mincha – only the Chazan says Anainu in the Shacharis Amidah - as in all fast days Birchas Kohanim and Tachanun are deleted – Kinos is recited.
- Minchah: Tallis and Tefillin – Korbonos – both Anainu and Nachem are inserted in the Amidah – Birchas Kohanim
The Day After the Fast of Tisha B’Av – Wednesday, August 6th 2014
All restrictions of the Nine Days end on Wednesday morning, August 6th.
The Navi Zechariah tells us that the fast days of the 17th day of Tammuz, the 9th of Av and the 10th of Tevat will eventually be changed to days of rejoicing. May it speedily come in our days with the arrival of the Moshiach.
As we begin to read from the Sefer Devorim, the last of the 5 books of The Pentetuach, we find an interesting comment in Rashi on the first Pasuk of the Parsha. "V'aileh Hadvorim, These are the words": says Rashi, "Because these are words of rebuke, and because the Torah lists here all the places that the B'nei Yisroel caused anger before Hashem, out of respect for the honor of the B'nei Yisroel, the Torah lists these locations through intimation and not by name directly."
Rav Moshe Feinstein ZT"L comments that from this Rashi we can learn that indirect rebuke is greater and preferable to the straight forward approach. And this is true because of Rashi's reason of "because of the honor (Kavod) of the B'nei Yisroel." Actual direct mentioning of the sin itself can actually have a negative repercussion and even cause a Chilul Hashem. However, this is only true if the listener will understand and identify with the indirect mention of his actions. If on the other hand he will remain oblivious and not "get" the message, one should surely rebuke specifically and quite directly.
The Gemarah in Baba Basra 165a says: " The Rabbi's say that most people transgress some level of stealing, few people violate promiscuous acts, and EVERYBODY violates "Avak Loshon Horah."
Avak Loshon Horah means the 'dust of Loshon Horah'. All the things we say about others that we try and justify in order to say them, but in reality is still Loshon Horah. All the implications that we make about others pretending that nobody knows who we are talking about. All the little stuff that can still pack a pretty heavy punch. All the things that we would never want anyone saying about us. All these things says the Gemorah, we are ALL guilty of.
The Megaleh Amukos says that our Parsha starts with the word Aileh, spelled Alef Lamed, Heh, which stands for Avak Loshon Horah.
Aileh Hadvorim, these are the things, the Avak Loshon Horah, that causes anger before Hashem.
We are approaching Tishah B'Av, the time when we lost both of our Batei Hamikdosh. And, Chazal tell us that the second Bais Hamikdosh was destroyed because of Sinas Chinom, unjustified, uncontrolled, unrealistic hatred for our fellow Jews.
With what is going on in Israel on a daily basis, we have to force ourselves to act in a way that Hashem loves, wants to see and is waiting for. Besides providing money and Tehillim and prayers for our soldiers, we have to change our actions. We have to commit to begin having Ahavas Chinom, unlimited LOVE for our fellow Jew, even if he dresses different than us or is more or less observant than we are.
And,when you hear negativity being spoken against another Jew, you must stop it in its track. If possible by inference or if not possible directly. If you don't listen to Loshon Horah and then the speaker will not have with whom to speak it.
This is something that EVERYBODY can take on as a challenge. It cost you nothing except ego to commit to not speaking or listening to Loshon Horah or Avak Loshon Horah.
It's what Hashem wants from us, it' s what our soldiers need from us, and it's what will ultimately bring about the building of the third and final Bais Hamikdosh in our time.
Good Shabbos and have an easy fast.
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